This is a collection of “stream of consciousness” answers to questions my therapist has asked me to consider and think about.
Main principles of the compound
- Be curious: The answer is almost never simple. Try to look for solutions in multiple ways. View it through other people’s eyes. Ask why and what conditions lead to this. look for understanding.
- Have integrity: Do what you say you’re going to do, and apologize and make a mends when you fail on your word. Ge consistent and true to your values. Do what’s right even if it’s hard. If hypocrisy is discovered, remove it.
- The Golden Rule: Even when you feel they don’t deserve it. Maintain your character as an example when others lack it. It’s the only thing you can control.
- Hard things are hard to do, so be prepared to work if you ever want anything non-trivial to be done. Failure is a guide towards mastery and success, so embrace it and learn from when it when it happens. Experts don’t know everything, they know a lot fo what NOT to do.
- Help others when you have the capacity to do so. Expect nothing in return.
How do people not understand you
I’m not sure, not many people have tried to dig and try to. I’ve made a life of being useful and people come to me for help on their problems. I don’t broadcast a need to be understood, I’ve always figured that others would genuinely be curious, as I am. I guess I’m saddened by the fact that people aren’t. My life was built around “I’ll do this myself” and to be out of the way but also making it easier for others if I could. Maybe it’s acknowledgement, but having that without knowledge of the motivation and meaning feels superficial. None of this feels like it’s getting to the core of the question, and touching on the general feeling of isolation. I view the world in a unique way, just as everyone does. Formed from my life experience and the framework I’ve built out to explain it. You can read some more thoughts about this in an old blog post. I’m continuously taken back how much things I see as intuitively obvious are so alien to everyone else. Although unique, I’d expect much of what I’ve come to understand well to overlap with may. But more and more I have to abstract away and simplify the core of my thoughts in order for them to feel received by anyone else.